It’s easy to feel defensive when someone comments negatively on something you put out. What we generally have is a lack of communication.
Often I talk with people about self defense and they have been told a story, by someone else or themselves, that keeps them from seeking out training for themselves or for their loved ones.
“I’m not a fighter.”
“I’m a woman, I can’t defend myself.”
“I will protect my kids, they don’t need to train.”
“It’s law enforcement’s job to protect me.”
“I attended a seminar once, so I know what I am doing.”
“It’s too expensive to train.”
“I don’t have the time to train.”
These, or some variation, are the most common I have heard in the twelve years of doing this. Let’s explore these stories and how we can change them.
That is the difference between preparation and paranoia.
Not magic, or false confidence, or mental tricks.
So what fears do you have?
It comes down to everyone taking responsibility for themselves.
The fact is, you’re on your own.
So whether you are trying to connect with your significant other, communicate tasks or plans to co-workers, or properly setting boundaries against a possible threat, clarity is key.
There is no tool in this world that can guarantee safety. Your potential to survive a violent encounter is directly correlated to the amount of time you spend training.
That said, in my experience, the most impactful people are the ones that can be tough when needed, but they know that the real magic comes in knowing how to talk with people, how to empathize, to relate. How to truly connect with people to deliver their message.
The reality is, ignorance is bliss…. until it’s not. If you’re worried about being murdered in public by mass violence, ignoring the topic only creates and fuels fear. Exposing yourself to the topic, learning how guns work and what they sound like, learning how to fight, learning how to give medical care, etc… These things are what will help suppress that fear and set you up a higher likelihood of survival.
I have had numerous conversations in the last two weeks with parents interested in signing their children up for self defense classes over the summer before they… Read more “Completely Safe in 60 Minutes or Less”