State your goals out loud and find the people who will help you achieve them.
Stop. Assess. Decide.
Assess what one thing is priority and do it.
Internal Stories That Will Get You Killed
Often I talk with people about self defense and they have been told a story, by someone else or themselves, that keeps them from seeking out training for themselves or for their loved ones.
“I’m not a fighter.”
“I’m a woman, I can’t defend myself.”
“I will protect my kids, they don’t need to train.”
“It’s law enforcement’s job to protect me.”
“I attended a seminar once, so I know what I am doing.”
“It’s too expensive to train.”
“I don’t have the time to train.”
These, or some variation, are the most common I have heard in the twelve years of doing this. Let’s explore these stories and how we can change them.
Preparation vs Paranoia
That is the difference between preparation and paranoia.
It’s knowledge.
It’s experience.
Not magic, or false confidence, or mental tricks.
It’s exposure.
So what fears do you have?
Germane
Germane: Being relevant or appropriate; fitting. Relevant to a subject under consideration.
Culture
It’s about finding good people, leading good people, and taking care of those people
Responsibility
It comes down to everyone taking responsibility for themselves.
The Individual Mindset
The fact is, you’re on your own.
Practice Makes Habit
The more you practice, the more you are likely to do things that way.
Nonviolent Communication for Self Defense?!?
So whether you are trying to connect with your significant other, communicate tasks or plans to co-workers, or properly setting boundaries against a possible threat, clarity is key.
